People are Doomed to Suffer as They Embrace Habitual Dichotomous Thinking or Catastrophic Thinking

Do we offer conditional love when we seek to be loved in return? Do we offer conditional love if we get mad for receiving less love? Unconditional love is an ideal. As you expect unconditional love from someone, you are more likely to take his/her bountiful love for granted and even demand more. People desire to be loved unconditionally. The strong offer kindness without demanding kindness in return. Do we rationalize kindness from our loved ones? As we demand more love and attention from a relationship, we will suffer. As we demand absolute fairness in a relationship, we will suffer.Are we manipulated by dichotomous thinking? Catastrophic thinking roots in a way of all-or-nothing thinking, which leads a person to think in extreme. What will happen if a person applies an all-or-nothing thinking mode to his/her life experiences? People’s judgment can be easily fooled by dichotomous thinking. This black-and-white type of thinking will potentially push a person’s emotions and behaviors to extremes. That’s why a person who thinks in the extreme is more likely to be mentally vulnerable, controlling, and stubborn. Dichotomous thinking leads people to divide everything into the blessed or the unblessed, the loved or the unloved, good or bad, etc. By doing so, people doom to suffer from emotional disturbance. Beyond that, people with dichotomous thinking tend to overrate the loss of bad news and neglect the hidden bonus of bad news.Can you see the good in every situation?What if we can benefit from life challenges? What if life challenges lead to a better life? Rationalize life challenges in life. The wise seek out hidden gifts behind the storms. Life can be beautiful without perfection. You lose nothing when God’s compensation never fails. With God’s help, you can build another castle in a heartbeat. It’s a universal rule that you will reward yourself if you keep throwing white weeds into the world.A little learning is dangerous. Learn from every encounter. Learn from history. Our feelings can be misleading. What we see can be misleading. Do we idealize what we hope for? How would our life be if anyone and anything could easily irritate us? Read more